A recent Rutgers University study reveals why men are waiting longer to get married and are in no hurry to make their first trip down the aisle. Lee Dye writes, “Men don’t need to get married to get what they want these days – mainly sex – so they feel comfortable in putting off that long term commitment until they have a few bucks in the bank, and a mortgage to pay off. Those are among the conclusions in the latest annual report issued by the National Marriage Project at Rutgers, a long term research program aimed at understanding why marriage has declined in this country by one third since 1970.”
“Men are now waiting on average until the age of 27 to marry, compared to 25 for women, but that doesn’t mean they are against marriage as an institution, according to the co-directors of the project, David Popenoe, a behavioral scientist and professor of sociology at Rutgers, and Barbara Dafoe Whitehead, a marriage expert. Men, they conclude, just aren’t in any hurry.”
Why should they be? Men are simply making logical and prudent decisions based on their current situation. They face a 50% divorce rate for first marriages and a family court system that is heavily skewed against them. They risk losing half of everything they own, plus a decade or more of child support for saying “I do” to some woman who may simply “change her mind” in less than five years. In addition, men do not suffer from a ticking biological clock. While this may be of concern to the researchers, it is of no concern to men, since they can simply marry a younger woman, thereby increasing their chances of having children well beyond age 40, unlike most women.
What Men Want
“Most of the men in these groups want to marry at some future time in their lives,” the researchers conclude. They expect their marriages to last a lifetime. Like the majority of young adults today, they are seeking a `soul mate.” But all that can wait. There doesn’t seem to be anyone pushing them toward the altar anyway. “Today’s young men encounter few, if any, traditional pressures from religion, employers or society to marry,” the researchers state, although they do get a bit of ribbing from parents who want grandchildren and colleagues who have already made that trip to the altar. One area that concerns many men, according to the research, is the fear of failure. They see friends who are too willing to give up at the first sign of disharmony, and there’s no question that marriage is not an easy institution to maintain. The researchers believe marriage has a much better chance of surviving if both partners expect it to last a lifetime. Attitude at the opening gun seems to be very important.”
But attitude at the opening gun means nothing in family court several years down the road, thanks to no-fault divorce. With a 50% divorce rate for first marriages it is not surprising that men are delaying marriage. What is surprising is that some men are still getting married, despite the lack of social pressure, the very real risk of financial disaster from divorce, and readily available sex.
Growing Up Is Not Required
“Men see marriage as a final step in a prolonged process of growing up.” What’s wrong with that? Nothing at all. This comes under the heading of Life, Liberty, and the Pursuit of Happiness. Anyone who would begrudge men Constitutional guarantees needs to be calibrated. It’s nobody else’s business when an individual decides to marry, if at all. Women who complain that they are unable to find a husband should blame the feminazis, not men. Without radical feminists, liberated and working women, and the sexual revolution of the 60s they wouldn’t be in this situation. Men didn’t sow this field; they are merely reaping the benefits of the seeds that the feminazis planted years ago.
Top 10 Reasons
“For the record, here are the 10 top reasons why men are “slow to commit:”
1. They can get sex without marriage more easily than in times past.
2. They can enjoy the benefits of having a wife by cohabiting rather than marrying.
3. They want to avoid divorce and its financial risks.
4. They want to wait until they are older to have children.
5. They fear that marriage will require too many changes and compromises.
6. They are waiting for the perfect soul mate, and she hasn’t yet appeared.
7. They face few social pressures to marry.
8. They are reluctant to marry a woman who already has children.
9. They want to own a house before they get a wife.
10. They want to enjoy single life as long as they can. ”
Marriage Too Risky
With modern methods of birth control and an ironclad pre-nup in hand men can already delay marriage almost indefinitely, much to the chagrin of their concerned parents and the impatiently waiting pool of eligible brides. Marriage has become too risky for many men, children have become expensive luxuries, and some men have concluded that neither of them is necessary for a happy and fulfilling life.
Many women, on the other hand, have recently realized that they were sold a bill of goods by the feminazis. They can’t have it all. Many of them now in their 40s find themselves single, lonely, too old to have children, and they feel cheated.
Women Not Needed
The State, through no-fault divorce, destroyed the nuclear family by making husbands and fathers unnecessary. Science, through artificial wombs, is now making wives and mothers unnecessary. Women may soon be going the way of the dodo bird.
Robin McKie writes, “Doctors are developing artificial wombs in which embryos can grow outside a woman’s body. The work has been hailed as a breakthrough in treating the childless. Scientists have created prototypes made out of cells extracted from women’s bodies. Embryos successfully attached themselves to the walls of these laboratory wombs and began to grow…’We hope to create complete artificial wombs using these techniques in a few years,’ said Dr Hung-Ching Liu of Cornell University’s Centre for Reproductive Medicine and Infertility…’There are going to be real problems,’ said…Dr Scott Gelfand, of Oklahoma State University. ‘Some feminists even say artificial wombs mean men could eliminate women from the planet and still perpetuate our species.”
Wouldn’t that be poetic justice? Not only could the feminazis achieve their goal of abolishing marriage, they could also find women essentially eliminated from the planet. Men could satisfy all of their top 10 concerns, including having children later in life and enjoying single life forever, without ever having to worry about the changes and compromises of marriage, or the huge financial risks of divorce.
Custody battles would disappear, as would the huge divorce industry that only exists to perpetuate and enrich itself while enabling the State to separate fathers from their children, husbands from their homes, and men from their paychecks.
In the future, men can have it all, without growing up or getting married, thanks to the feminazis. Imagine that! Men could purchase a home that they themselves could actually live in for the rest of their lives, instead of being forced to sign it over to their ex and then paying the mortgage for her to live there by writing “support” checks for many years. What a novel concept. Given the current social conditions and the trend for the future it appears that men now hold all of the trump cards even if many are still unaware of it.
It is also readily apparent that an informed, intelligent, and mature man would have to be insane to risk everything by getting married today. The risks greatly outweigh any potential gains and it would entail at least going through the motions of growing up. Why even bother? As the younger generation says, “Let’s party, dude!” Thank you, feminazis.
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